TA wrote:Quinn isn't being blamed for the existence of these things, she's being accused of deliberately contributing to them to further her career
This line really annoys me but my original argument for why this is a terrible way to think just took away from the point I actually wanted to focus on. Classic had a good point, but if anyone else want to handle it that'd be great.
The Hard Facts:
Quinn is a woman.
Quinn is not bad looking (hell, I think she's pretty but we're not going subjectively here)
Quinn slept with men she worked with.
Quinn lied to lots of people in ways that could be disproven easily.
Quinn is now basically hiding and waiting for all the attention she ended up with to blow over.
Before The Controversy:
Quinn was a big part of a community (partially formed by or around her) with a strong sense of personal truth and sincerity.
Quinn was working on a game called 'Depression Quest'.
I don't know about you other nerds that like to talk about videogames and have lots of relationships on the internet feel about yourselves, but I have generally pretty low self-esteem. Clearly this doesn't leave me crying in a corner thinking about how terrible I am all the time because I have plenty of opportunity to come here and let you all know how great I am and how you're all wrong about pseudo-celebrity gossip.
What it does mean is that sometimes I'm really easy to peer pressure. Most times really.
What does that mean exactly? Well a few things, actually!
I did start smoking cigarettes as a kid because 'smoker' is enough of a trait to give you a group to hang out with in high school. Yeah it's cliched, but that happened.
It also means I lie a lot. Stupid, stupid lies. Things that I think don't matter to anyone because, again, low self-esteem. When I told Kayin years ago when I first started hanging out with him that I was totally badass with a switchblade and immediately proven wrong when he handed me one to mess around with. When I told the lie the only thought in my mind was that I needed to put something out there so he would like me. That is, the guy who I already knew from talking to online who regularly and openly talked about his disgusting fetishes, had many of the same hobbies as me and had already invited me to come hang out with him at his house
. And I told a lie that was literally disproven in seconds and would have made no impact in a negative OR positive light had it gone unchecked.
I also sleep with people I don't really care about, but again, not in a cool way. I've slept with women I've had no attraction to for reasons ranging from 'hosted the party' to 'was more attracted to a guy I didn't like' or 'made the first move'. These weren't people that I was sexually attracted to without caring about or who I regretted the next morning or anything near that. These are situations where I'm getting drunk at a party and a girl is constantly talking about how she wishes [some dick I hate] was there because he was so hot and awesome and the party was lame and then she starts to drink and press against me and all I think is "oh man, if I sex this girl than maybe she'll like me more than SDIH". I'll then take this girl outside and do things I am legitimately not enjoying until she decides to go back in to the party (thankfully). I will then sleep with this girl's best friend who I'm even less physically attracted to and I know a friend of mine likes only because after I passed out she started rubbing my dick and when I woke up my reaction wasn't "holy shit what's wrong with you" it was "oh god, now if I don't sleep with her she'll think I like her friend and don't like her and will get mad at me."
I also spend an insane amount of my time high, because it's too obvious if you're drunk all the time and if I'm sober I'm in a constant loop of revealing these things about myself, acting on them, or fearing other people's reactions to them.
So maybe think about how an anxious, slightly depressed guy whose name no one knows when put in certain situations. Now think about similar situations from the perspective of a woman in a field where you do ACTUALLY need to impress people and have them like you, and where it's considered fact that women need to work twice as hard at both those things.
Is it so hard to believe Depression Quest was created by someone that knows what it means to make mistakes? Hell if I know, I'mma light this blunt and try to forget I made a self-revealing post in response to one of the dumbest arguments we've had since the community decided one person with loud opinions is an argument.