That's exactly the sort of fucker you got to watch out for.
The people that think they're in charge of society.
Yeah, you're not wrong. My friend is a really good example of how a normally logical, kind person can be corrupted by racism and nationalism. See, it sounds unbelievable to people when a racist person says something racist and then their friends and family are like "no wait guys i know that was bad but they're actually a really nice person!"
But I totally get it. Racists are, apart from their racism, not always completely vile humans. It's typical binary thinking to assume that all racists = complete shitlords.
To be clear, I'm not excusing their racism, or defending my friend's beliefs or asking you not to criticize him. I just understand it when people say "wait, my racist grandmother is actually really kind!"
The problem is being a nice person to people with your same skin color doesn't excuse you from oppressing other races, of course. That's what the family and friends of racists typically don't understand.